In comes the world of technological advancements and Smartphones to aid us with work, life, and staying connected but how has it really impacted our personal and professional lives? When I am out with friends I see so many people furiously scrutinizing their phones, tweeting, texting and checking Facebook updates while ignoring the company they are with. What message does this send to each party? Is what is “inside” their phones so much more essential and stimulating than spending time with one another? Why even have face to face if the other person(s) obviously has no face value?

Remember the days gone past of personal interaction, communication and building individual relationships- being present in the moment without concerns of outside influences: who is saying what to whom or being so obsessed that you miss the “now?” We all used to engage in conversation: sharing value, insight and fostering deeper relationships without interruptions or another person observing their phone for the next message. The wonders of dining alone while in the company of others? Have you been there? Is your eye contact just a fleeting glance in between text messages?

“Life is available only in the present moment. If you abandon the present moment you cannot live the moments of your daily life deeply.” Thich Nhat Hanh

While I haven’t lost the value or benefit of Smartphones, especially as a virtual assistant, but I believe there is a fine line between being rude and discourteous while amongst friends or business colleagues affixed to their phones. I will be the first to admit that I have been guilty, but that was in the past. I have made a concerted effort to be present in the moment as I have chosen to be in the company of the group. If I had a lack of interest, I would have stayed home and merely texted.

What memories do you want to create? How do you want to cherish the time you have with others? Show them you value and respect them by putting away your phone. All of the updates, emails, and text messages will not instantaneously vanish because you didn’t check them at the moment. Life is just too short to persist on this path of seeking immediate gratification of the reading the next best thing, as we end up failing to notice or neglect the wonders of our present moments.

Make your priority the people you are with by giving them your “mind full” attention.

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment.” Henry David Thoreau